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On Becoming Baby Wise: Giving Your Infant the Gift of Nighttime Sleep Reviews

UPDATE TIME: 2019-08-11 
Review Score: 3 out of 5 star From 3 user ratings
ISBN:1932740139
LANGUAGE:English

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http://www.ezzo.info/

that website pretty much sums it up.
The AAP (American Academy of Pediatrics) and many well respected breastffeding advocacy groups rightly condemn this and other of his books for promoting tactics that can lead to failure to thrive and severe dehydration, among other problems.
It's also one of several books by these authors, all of which are heavily religious, or promote child rearing techniques based on western theology rather than sound medical advice, something I did NOT realize when gifted this book.

Using religious morals to guide your parenting techniques is a sketchy way to approach things, as far as I'm concerned. Being atheist myself, I felt pretty ripped off when I realized I was being fed poopoo disguised as chocolate, and dropped the book as though it was covered in hydrochloric acid straight away.

My thoughts are pretty much along the lines of everyone else here who gave it a super low rating: It's extreme, severe, controlling, unempathetic, inflexible (despite what they say, there is little room for flexibility within their system), and based on imposed morality rather than humanity.

They advocate what seems tantamount to abuse here- but I can see what he's going for here, oddly enough. Mr. Ezzo would like very much to use a sort of logical and mechanical progression to "train" your baby to behave in a way that suits your lifestyle. This will involve ignoring cries (ok, I could probably live with that), ignoring hunger if the baby did not fill up earlier to "teach" it to fill up in the future (uhh... there is such a thing as too young to process cause and effect), and forsaking all other baby rearing techniques because they will corrupt your family and ruin everything (lol, no- really! He just about puts La Leche League's metaphorical head on a pigpole for promoting cue feeding- something that he badly misrepresents)...

Unfortunately for Mr. Ezzo, many babies simply cannot be trained- or at least not in this manner, though he does not seem to be willing to admit such a horrifying possibility, and states that essentially, if it's not working- you're not doing it right.
Ignoring hunger cues to train your baby to live by your schedule may sound like a good idea when worded nicely in the pages of a best selling book, but when actually faced with a screaming, starving infant, things are a bit different, and all the idyllic sounding theories become background noise as your child "says" to you
"Goddamit I'm HUNGRY! What the hell is wrong with you? Don't you love me? Why are you ignoring me?!"

There is some decent basic info here, but none that can't be found in a more humane form by someone who's actually got some kind of medical training (he has none) or at the very least endorsements from pediatric organizations (again, none), or if all else fails *some* kind of verifyable research or labratory study (nope, we're gonna stick with hypothetical non-people here).

Ezzo's own children are apparently estranged, and by the tone of this and other of his works, I'm not surprised. Yikes!
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" I read this between having my first and second babies at the insistence of my SILs... and was not impressed. In my mind, if you can't handle waking up to feed your infant or are bothered by their cries, you probably shouldn't be having a baby. I could see using some of the methods with older babies - like at 9 months or a year - definitely if you're still having trouble with toddlers sleeping through the night, but I think it's too extreme for newborns. " said.

"f I could give this book a 1/2 star, that's how I truly feel. There is not enough space here to provide the in-depth review this book deserves - others have done that and www.ezzo.info is a good resource. It is very important to note that Ezzo has no educational background in child development or related field, and the M.A. he holds is from an instituition that gives credit for life experience - he does not hold a bachelor's degree at all.
That said - there is accurate information in this book. The problem is for the reader to find it amongst the flawed information, hypotheses and statistics. The author seems either willfully misrepresenting and manipulating the positions of his opponents, or else dreadfully uninformed. Either way, it would be almost laughable, if the potential outcomes weren't so terrifying (American Academy of Pediatrics has warned that the methods presented can lead to poor weight gain/dehydration). The information in this book can be found (and without the difficulty of sorting the truth from fiction) in countless other books - Sleepless in America - Mary Sheedy Kurcinka, and Touchpoints - Brazelton are two that come to mind.
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"Does your baby have colic? Do you feel guilty about it? Well if not read this book. It will make you feel like a terrible mom. It is a particularly horrible book for the parent of a newborn with colic. It flat out says that you should be able to calm your crying baby and if you can't there is something wrong with you. As if you don't feel bad enough that your sweet little newborn is in pain.
This book is probably useful to a baby who just needs a little guidance and a strict schedule. But for some moms it will make you crazy freaking out if you are 15 minutes late for a feeding. How will you ever redeem yourself for deviating from a schedule.
The authors bring up the issue of your baby trusting you only if you have a predictable schedule. To me this is only valuable if, when your baby needs it, you deviate to suit their needs. I would rather my baby trust that I am darn well going to feed him when he is hungry than follow this pre laid out schedule with military precision.
Further more it did not seem to make allowances for growth spurts, which healthy babies have. According to this book, you simply do not feed your growing newborn unless it was TIME. The statistical proof to support their schedule showed that babies on the superior baby wise schedule were bigger. Guess what, I don't want my kids bigger than they are supposed to be. Perhaps Baby Wise is contributing to the obesity epidemic?
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"I hear a lot of controversy about this book; I think a lot of it is based on misinformation. This book (especially the newest version, which is definitely revised and made more clear than the older editions) takes care to align itself with the AAP's recommendations of feeding newborns at least 8-12 times a day, etc. I think people hear it suggests putting babies on a strict four-hour schedule and allowing them to fail to thrive, but it does not do that. I have used at least its basic principles (keeping newborns awake for a FULL feeding, awakening them so that they eat every 2.5-3 hours during the day, and putting their activities in a feed-waketime-naptime order) with all three of my children,and all quickly ballooned into chubby, happy babies who knew how to put themselves to sleep and slept through the night early on (but not so early that they weren't receiving adequate nourishment). I also found it really helpful in guiding me on when to expect what (for instance, when I could drop the late-evening feeding without it being too early), especially with my first baby. I think I held too strongly to the principles with my first child, and thus was overly rigid, but I have learned to let things go a little and be OK with it if the baby misses its nap because something else is more important (which the book also suggests--being flexible). Don't believe people who make it sound like this book suggests you should be mean to your baby. I could never be mean to my baby. I love my baby, and I want him to be well-rested and well-nourished so he can learn and grow. " said.

"We used this philosophy with both of my girls, and both slept through the night at five weeks and are awesome sleepers to this day. Both of them thrived into the 90th percentile in both weight and height, so there was no failure in thriving! Honestly, as with any philosophy concerning your children, whether it be feeding, discipline, play...take what works for your family and go with it. What I got from this book is an affirmation of common sense and to follow what my instincts were telling me to do.

Did my child just take a full feeding?...why, yes she did! So, her crying is not because of hunger, it must be something else. Lets check it out and see what's wrong!...how is this causing my child harm? Why would the first thing I do when my child cries is try to feed her? Babies cry for other reasons!

Let your children sleep in their own beds because it is not safe for them in yours. Good point! Also, how good is your sleep with a child in the room, really? And at what point will you stop that? Start them in a bassinet if you want them close, not in the bed with you. If you can't wake up enough to walk to your child's room to feed them, that is another problem.

As for a feeding schedule...do you not eat on a schedule? Why shouldn't your child? Think about the opposite scenario...you never know when your child is going to want to eat, how much they will eat and when their nap will follow. How do you plan your day? What time do you tell your sitter to feed your child? How do you get anything done? How does your milk supply become affected? Breast milk is awesome, but it also has to be maintained. If your child is snacking every hour or so, she is only getting your foremilk, which is lower in fats and nutrients. Don't believe me, pump and look at what comes out first and then check how creamy it looks as you finish...skim milk to whipping cream. If she is only taking a "snack", that is what your body is going to start producing. Now, that will take you down a road to failure to thrive, not to mention sore, bleeding nipples, a hungry baby and worn out momma.

BW does have a Christian undertone to it, but even if you are not a believer, is that really a bad thing? Is showing love to your significant other a bad thing? Children learn by example, why not give them a loving one to follow?

BW is all about the parent being in control, and reacting appropriately to the situation. If your child is crying, and she just took a full feeding 90 minutes ago, look at the situation...is she in a growth spurt? is she tired? does she have a dirty diaper? cold? hot?...think about all the different reasons. No one but you is in charge of your baby's care. No one is making you not feed her, or not hold her, or let her cry. For any of you that are blaming BW because of your child's failure to thrive or not connecting with you, that was your choice. These are guidelines, and when applied correctly, result in a happy, well rested, well fed child...because the parent has the say to change the guidelines!! Your child is not in control! She is not the boss of you! If you let it start now, when will it stop?

I am amazed by the people that are saying they won't read this book because of a website and statistics. Why believe those statistics over the ones in the book? There is support for both sides, and I have always said, you either love this book or hate it. I am totally a lover and recommend it to all parents with the advice of...take what works for you and your family.
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"TLDR: No, just really, really no.

I read this book when my daughter was maybe a week old. My spouse and I were sleep deprived and exhausted, you know, from the rigors of a long birth, a hospital stay, and an infant that needs to feed every 2-3 hours and be held pretty much constantly. When you're in that state, the promises this book makes are not just appealing, they are like siren calls (the Homeric kind).

I read through this book one drowsy evening, probably with Remy sleeping on my chest. Some of the prescriptions seemed reasonable, but lots of the discussion seemed ideological and not evidence-based. I never trusted the authors and wondered why two random men felt like they could tell parents what to do. And some of the prescriptions (like making a newborn wait for a feeding when they show hunger cues) never seemed like a good idea, and luckily we never tried them.

Later I found out that the authors don't really have any credentials and that this book has been widely discredited.

I feel like the victim of a classic scam, where I was in a vulnerable state and somebody promised me a too-good-to-be-true solution.

The truth is that newborns are really difficult, and there's really very little you can do about it until they are 3-4 months old and can self soothe. The end.

PS A book I found much more valuable in my first few weeks as a parent was The Fourth Trimester by Susan Brink.
https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/1...
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"I absolutley love what these books have to offer, and find them to be right on. I studied infancy and early childhood development, so I didn't go into these books blindly, but found them to work really well, and to be on track with the long terms goals were are trying to help our children accomplish. And if you read the sites for their study work, it's amazing. I can't stress how helpful these were. Especially with my daughter who had GERD. Without this, I don't think any of us would have made it through! The schedule was just what someone with her problem needs, and so few have. This isn't any easy program in the beginning, but that's just it. All the work is in the beginning, and you will be loving it when you kid is sleeping through the night long before others! Everyone always said I was lucky to have such good sleepers, but that's not it. I worked hard for those nights!!" said.

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